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Yes, this. All the time. Particularly from my father, and to a lesser extent, my brother.
"C'mon, Jen, it's just a joke."
"You're overreacting."
"You're taking this way too seriously."
"I have a right to my opinion."
"Why are you getting upset about this? I'm just trying to have a rational debate."
"You'd make your point better if you didn't take it so personal." And on and on and on and on.

"It's just words, it doesn't mean anything." But yes, oh yes it does. And then they wonder why there's a part of me that dreads every family visit.

The Terrible Bargain We Have Regretfully Made

Date: 2012-03-26 10:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
::hugs you::

Date: 2012-03-26 10:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks :)

Date: 2012-03-27 04:15 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
It's so frustrating. Sometimes I want to ask my guy friends if they have eyes.

Date: 2012-03-30 04:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm sorry your family is so hard to deal with.

Date: 2012-03-30 05:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks. They can be wonderful too, of course. But the constant baiting can be really hurtful.

Date: 2012-03-31 12:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Baiting of that sort tends to be a sign that they don't respect your right to be who you are or feel how you feel, so I don't blame you for feeling hurt by it.

Date: 2012-03-31 04:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yeah, my parents both have this sort of 'why can't you just be *normal*' thing going.

Date: 2012-04-02 05:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Baiting is mean and nasty and cruel.

Maybe ask them whether they want to be mean and nasty and cruel? because that's what they're doing.

Date: 2012-04-02 05:13 pm (UTC)
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My dad's rationale is that he's 'toughening me up' -- since I insist on 'choosing' a 'different' lifestyle I'm inviting criticism so he's 'helping' me by making me practice. Beyond the sheer patronisation of that reasoning he doesn't seem to understand that by and large I don't give a crap what other people think of me so their words don't hurt -- but his do, because I *do* care about what he thinks of me.

Date: 2012-03-30 05:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yes. Yes very much.


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